Passing is often seen as blending in with the rest of the world and being seen by others as our correct gender, however the main goal is to feel more at ease and comfortable with ourselves and our gender identity.
Obvious as it may seem but the best place to start is to build a wardrobe of men’s clothing; including jeans and other clothing that is seen as unisex. Women’s trousers and jeans are cut to accentuate the natural curve of their hips and thighs and can easily give you away. Men’s trousers and jeans are cut straight and cover most of the curves up, even giving that flatter man’s bottom.
Men’s clothing alone will not make a woman look like a man. Physique, body language and other mannerisms can make or break the deal. Some people watching and the eye of a good friend is needed here. Look at how women and men move and notice the difference.
Walking. Men tend to walk
to slightly to each side of their centre of gravity. The movement is
from the gut rather than the hips.
• Sitting. Men tend not to fold up their bodies when they sit and take up space. They tend to lean back in the chair with their legs placed firmly apart. If they do cross their legs it is ankle upon the knee making a square.
• Conversation and interaction. Guys tend not to use body movement in conversation and are not as chatty as women. They tend to make ‘uh-huh’ sounds rather than use body language. The tone of voice is more monotone with little or no inflection.
• Standing. Avoid putting the hands on the hips; put the hands in pockets instead. Men tend to stand straight without the hips to one side
Some men can carry off long hair wonderfully but for the transguy long hair feminizes the face so most of us will have to get it cut in a short male style. The best option is to find a barber who will do you the style you want. They will often advise you on what will work for you too.
Whether it is a sock or a soft prosthetic you use to give you the male bulge, it should be subtle. It is also worth considering a STP device especially if you are using the gents publicly. Purpose made prostheses combined with STP are out there - http://www.tranzwear.net/. Remember men tend to be in and out the bathroom without engaging in chit-chat.
The biggest dilemma for a transguy is often the bust and binding can help give the chest a more masculine definition. Those of us with a generous bust need to do more than hide in a loose t-shirt or sweater. Wearing tighter sports bras can help to begin with. Binding is another alternative.
The first point to remember is that adult men do not have totally flat chests, they have pecs! Binding shouldn’t just press the breast tissue down into the ribcage, but it should hold you flatter where the pecs would be naturally.
NEVER use tape to bind down your breasts - it is dangerous!
Crepe bandages are often used in movies but it is important to remember they are designed to get tighter when they loosen, so every time you breathe they will get tighter and tighter - not really a good option especially for elongated periods of time.
A sports compression vest is made of material that supports and flattens the chest at the same time and are a good option for everyday use. Specialist binders are available and are designed to press down the breast without becoming dangerous to the wearer. These are available from http://www.t-kingdom.com
The only way to really deepen the voice is to start testosterone therapy, but it is possible to lower the vocals slowly. An hour or so singing male vocals exercises the vocal-chord muscles. Another exercise is to repeat ‘King Kong sings songs’ in a low voice elongating the ‘ing’ and lowering the voice with each word. As with all muscular exercise build up slowly and allow the voice to develop naturally.
Biologically men have more natural muscle and gain muscle easier than women. Muscle building workouts and weight lifting build up muscle mass and look more masculine Focus on the shoulders, chest, abs and hips.
Stop shaving legs and armpits and shave the peach fuzz from the face. Lather the jawline and a couple of inches below and shave in a downward direction. Initially the skin will feel strange but a splash of after shave helps to tighten the skin and the process becomes much easier. To begin with shaving every 2 or 3 days is enough to stimulate some hair growth. A touch of mascara close to your natural hair colour can also stimulate a moustache or 5 o’clock shadow. Allow your sideburns to grow too as they make the face look older and more masculine.
Developing a better posture and avoid slouching. Working the back muscles to stretch the back is also beneficial. Just small changes can gain a few vital inches in stature.